Here we conclude the "Who's Controlling Your Life?" arc. We started the discussion with therapy, workaholism, differences in different cultures, neurologic adaptations that can and can't be seen, dinosaurs, homosexuality and evolution in action. Part 2 wondered if big teeth and big muscles was an experiment that failed and part 3 questioned if homosexuality was another of Nature's experiments.
Part 4 reflected on some of childhood's mysteries and part 5 wondered about finding teachers who honor differences. Part 6 considered what are strengths and what are weaknesses and part 7 offered some tersely worded solutions.
We conclude with some expansions of what was offered yesterday in part 7.
- Make yourself the most important demand in your life. Are emails a time suck? Don't get them for a day. People will call if they need you. The phone ringing too much? Shut it off. People will knock on your door if it's important. Too many people knocking? Take a day and tell no one where you go. Are you too important? Then you're not. Not to yourself. Until you're important to yourself you're not important to anybody else, you're a crutch.
- It really is that simple. No, really, it is. Is it not that simple? Do I not understand? Back at you. It is that simple and it's you that doesn't understand the true, real nature of the problem. Solutions are obvious. They always are. You just need to look in the right place to find them. Finding solutions isn't the challenge, it's knowing where to find them that is. Learn how to do that and you've learned it all. Take a lesson from the US Naval Academy. Take time to learn what's important and focus on it.
- Make a list and keep to it. Realize there are only so many hours in a day and fill your list accordingly. Get a lot of items? Then you've made a two-day or week long list. Add to or reorganize your list only for items 1 and 2 above and in that order.
And now my hand tires from all this writing. I compose, review, rewrite and edit on paper before I type it into the computer and post it online. Not always. Only the important ones.
And the solution? Quite simple. Time to stop.
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