A friend told me he is in therapy because his life is out of control. Too many demands on his time. A cell phone and a pager and a PDA and children and a wife and a job and a ... I listened. I congratulated him on deciding this was a problem for him and seeking help. I didn't want to tell him that his immediate solution to the problem -- too many demands on his time -- was to add another demand to his schedule -- a regular therapy session.
People who work with me call me a workaholic. Another friend told me last week that I'm always busy because I'm always doing something, always active. People have repeatedly either told me they're amazed at what I've done in my life or asked how I could achieve what I have. Some of it is nature (my musical ability or lack thereof, for example) and some is nurture (a family and culture where solving problems and recognizing core elements of solutions was prized, a family of readers, homes full of music and song, a family and culture that taught by storytelling and process modeling).
There's also the fact that I realized at a very early age I was different from my peers in ways I couldn't explain. I've wondered, in retrospect, if this awareness I had has similarities to the young boy or girl realizing they're gay.
Aside from the anatomical confusions that are part of adolescence, what are the external physical manifestations of what amount to completely functional yet decidedly differently neurologic structural adaptations to... what? Are the neurologic adaptations required to alter physiologic manifestations Nature's way of testing a theory? Easy theory to test: are there more gay people per capita in the world now than elsewhen in recorded history?If yes –> homosexuality is an adaptive model that is working for the here and now. If not –> then not.
The concept of adaptive modeling is a challenging one for many people. Especially those who don't study how things evolve over time (my thinking? Everything evolves over time). Nature (like me, I guess) is always testing theories and providing solutions to problems. I've heard it said that the age of the dinosaurs was Nature testing whether big teeth and big muscles were the way to go and eventually decided no, they weren't.
(yep, folks, this is an arc. Hold on once again. We're going for a ride...)
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