Once again I've been invited to blog about a topic I'm completely unqualified to write about. This time, it's the fact that men are incapable of dressing inappropriately. Dang!
Does this bother you as much as it does me? I mean, come on. Can't one guy get on a plane shirtless? Or at least wearing a shirt so tight that the buttons are bursting around his gut? Or maybe with pants so tight you can tell if the quarters in his pocket are heads up or heads down? How about wearing a thong with nothing over it?
Okay, fun's over. This post is really about "Two women were recently singled on out separate Southwest flights and told that their outfits were 'inappropriate.'" We never seem to read this about men, though. Hmm...
I've read some and not all of the supporting material. I also did a Google search on inappropriately dressed men. 207,000 entries. I scanned the first 100. They all dealt with men's reactions to inappropriately dressed women.
Obviously, I don't know how to search correctly.
Or is it that we're simply a male-oriented, sex-obsessed culture that still thinks of women as either objects or property instead of people?
Do remember that this post is being written by a male of the species. I'm as capable of recognizing an attractive female as the next male.
Oh, wait a second. What is "attractive"? In college, male friends constantly wondered how I managed to date some of the most attractive women on campus. At one point, I dated a woman whom everyone else was lining up for. I stopped dating her on the second or third date, I think. Was she stunning? Yeah, I suppose. I really can't remember.
What I can remember was that she was so completely self-centered and boring (and this from someone who describes himself as boring) that it was painful to be with her. Whom did I spend time with? A woman everyone described as "a good friend". To me, she was a dream. I couldn't get past her intellect and conversational skills to see that she really was rather plain, after all.
Wait a second. I'm sorry. I'm suppose to write something like "I could never see past her hourglass figure to appreciate what an intelligent woman she was", right?
Stimulation is in the mind before it's in the body. What causes the mind to be stimulated? Cultural specific mating behaviors. What falls into the category of "cultural specific mating behaviors"? Well, strangely enough, one such thing that falls into that category is clothing that either reveals or draws attention to either primary or secondary sexual attributes.
Primary or secondary sexual attributes? Yes. Sex organs are primary sexual attributes. My beard is a secondary sexual attribute. My ability to grow a beard comes from heredity and various hormone levels in my body. We tend to not display our primary sexual attributes (as a culture) and we claim it's for health reasons. I'll agree there's a public health concern in some and not all cases. We tend to display secondary sexual attributes (as a culture) and we claim it's fashion. I've had facial hair since I was a highschool freshman and a full beard since I got out. It has nothing to do with fashion. I hate shaving twice a day.
Now between the "clothing that either reveals or draws attention to" and the "stimulation" itself is this odd little thing called "the human mind". Supposedly the human mind has the ability to perform rational thought, to make decisions. Something like, "Yes, that is stimulating. I can choose to ignore it, though, and not be stimulated."
I must balance this against my grandfather's advice to me, "Palle piene conton dono la testa e distrae il lavoro" ("Loaded testicles confuse the head and distract from work").
Impressive secondary sexual characteristics are always interesting from an engineering perspective, and yes, they'll catch my eye. One of my dearest friends is a woman with a 38dd-26-37 figure. She wears a t-shirt with very tiny print on the stomach area. It reads "Enjoying the shade, are we?" But what really impresses me is that she can hold her own in conversations in a dozen different fields ranging from xenobiology to atmospheric studies to music and reads in three languages.
{You know, completely as an aside, this topic kind of dovetails with my recent articles on eye-tracking studies, don't you think? I mean, really, it's all about what we choose to focus on, what to see, what the eye is pointing at when the brain sends the mind the "My god did you see the hat that woman was wearing?")
What, exactly is inappropriate dress? Perhaps the Hamamatsu shown here? Would you feel comfortable if someone sat next to you on an airplane wearing this stunning piece? Now this little honey, she really has me going. You can just tell she has something on her mind, can't you?
Please contact NextStage for information regarding presentations and trainings on this and other topics.
Links for this post:
- Eye-Tracking Studies: Just Say "No!"
- Help visitors focus and reap the rewards
- Second Life? I don't find you interesting in Real Life
- XChange on 20-21 Sept 07
- DC Emetrics Summit on 14-17 Oct '07
- Society for New Communications Research Annual Research Symposium & Awards Gala on 5-6 Dec 07 in Boston.
I am a 28 years, married male with a beautiful
Wife and two gifted Children. I am a successful
software engineer working in Malaysia migrated
from Tamilnadu state of India. From birth, I was
a weak tender and soft hearted boy. As I grow, I
always found boys trying to be rough and tough
and forced other boys to do the same. From the
age of 12, I had strange feelings of affinity
towards girls and thier clothes. I began to
dress up girls clothes and yearned to live
peacefully like a girl. Most But soon I and many
soft natured boys found out that the society
will not allow us to dress as girls. But slowly
girls were allowed to dress like boys due to
increased power and glamour. We are not accepted
by the dominating male world. Women are
dependant on Male society. So Women also did not
want to accept these soft boys to grow like
girls under thier control. If Women and Girls
took control of soft boys and dressed them as
girls, more than half of the men will come under
thier control. Cross Dressers simply cannot
accept the Bad qualities of Men. CrossDressers
are not gay. But instead, they have a great
affinity to women than normal men. Cross
Dressers or Transvestites want to live with
women as one of them and not over them. I always
had a lot of girls friends of all variety,
during my late twenties while I was seriously
crossdressing. Girls with stunning Beauty, Girls
with abudant wealth, Girls with high intellect,
Girls with high modesty, Girls aged more than
me, fell easily for me. Most of them had a lot
of male admirers. Most of them competeted with
each other to win me. I soon found that I am
always correct in judging the girls. I strongly
feel that my crossdressing and my inner feminity
helped me to penetrate them easily than a
socially strong male. My behaviour aroused a
natural affinity in the girls towards me. I
never had a guilt in crossdressing. I adored it.
I only had the fear for the social rejection.
So Soft boys began to cross dress as girls
and enjoy feminity in privacy. Dressing a girls
Gown, Chudidhar, Saree, Bangles etc made these
boys creative. Feeling like a women make these
boys very understanding towards people. Living
both like a Man in public and a woman in private
has made most of us brilliant and successful in
life. My marriage is arranged by family. I
married a beautiful girl as I wished and never
compromised on my taste for money or status. I
did not tell my wife about my cross dressing
habit for the fear of rejection. At times, I
will try her sarees when I am alone. As expected
by our Community, I behaved like a very dominant
husband and she obeyed all my wishes without any
question. So Our life was normal and dull as
many thousand families. I read a lot of sex
books to improve our sexual life. In intimate
sexual relations, Both my Wife and I found out
that equal partnership in sex gives greater
enjoyment and ectasy. Slowly intimacy and peace
of mind prevailed with both of us. I became more
soft natured and stopped my domination which is
my true character. She became more relaxed and
equally involved in all my decisions. When I
searched the internet for improving our sexual
life, I came across many Female Domination
(Femdom) sites. I soon found that in my inner
heart, I loved female domination and cross
dressing was a resut of this. My crossdressing
is just a subordinate feeling towards a strong
woman I love. We soon found that my Wife is
becoming more dominant in the family. I was
happy on the role reversal, because a lot of my
trouble is now shared by her. At this time, my
feeling to live and feel like a woman grew hard.
I longed to be a girlish friend for my wife than
to be a dominating husband. Subconciously we are
already living like that, sharing every thing
like two girl friends. This Subconciousness
induced me to become a real woman and enjoy the
great feminine qualities. But fear forced me to
hide these feeling from my wife. I cannot
bear the physicological pressure. So I gathered
my courage and told my wife of my desire to
dress, feel and live like a woman. I told her
that I wanted to be a girl friend for her and
not a husband. To my joy, She unhappily accepted
the idea. Since She was the dominating decision
maker of both, she was bold enough to give it a
try. She easily began to treat me like a girl or
a submissive partner and sex. Soon we both found
that our enjoyment increased multifold.
Particular she received excellent sexual
pleasure and was elated. So she prepared to
dress me as a Woman. At first we both were
nervous and felt disgusting. But she clearly
understood my deep feeling for being a woman. So
inspite of setbacks, she continously tried to
dress up me in her clothes. She would try
different techniques after long months of
intervals. She gave me different hair styles.
She then stitched a new set of blouses for my
sizes. After nearly 3 years of her persistance,
we both began to enjoy our CrossDressing. She
improved my looks and dresses and enjoyed every
bit of my feminity. Dear Friends, Now she
really enjoys both my masculinity and my
feminity. She encourages My dominance and
assertivness upon my friends and relatives,
which I always displayed from young age. At same
time she enjoyed suppressing me into a
submissive husband dressed in glamorous girl's
costumes to satisfy her fully. for friendship
and other querry, only girls or cross dresser
male may write to me at madhusrimali@yahoo.com,
dpcped@yahoo.com
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